This is a response out to Mr.Trae King with a great interview on his position on sex and christianity @ ( http://sistersofhonor.blogspot.com/2012/01/sexual-purity-with-guest-trae-king.html ). As a fellow believer, writer, and human being I applaud Mr.King for sharing his perspective and views. And before I ask anyone to read on you should read his interview. Im just an everyday guy giving, sharing and communicating with my brothers and sisters so that we can fully understand one another. While upholding the upright most respect for each others views.
Response:
I agree this was a very informative interview and it was great understanding more of this perspective. I agree that there should be a higher standard and more reverence when it comes to having sex with your partner. But I also agree that it is an important part of a relationship. I am a christian that used to believe in sex after marriage. But when I decided to have sex before hand to be honest it was one of the best decisions I made. I understood what it meant to be vulnerable with someone and to connect with someone at that level. And bottom line people are people and people make mistakes with in marriage and relationships. Divorce is just as big in the church as it is in the world. So i think the issue of maintaining a relationship is more than just sex in and outside of marriage. Sex I believe is important to know about if you spouse is compatible with your body, has communication through body language when having sex, and their sexual interests get along with yours, and I am not saying that in a lustful sense but coming from a person that has had experience. And yes it hurt when my old girlfriend and I broke up but we both walked away learning from our mistakes and knowing that were not for each other, but ever since we ever started having sex, we both learned to be more vulnerable with someone with that connection while keeping priority of respect for one another. It is incredible how much more you know more about a person when after having intimacy with a individual that you truly love. And i think Romans 12:2 was taken out of context because it is universal to everything and not targeted to just sex. We should be constantly renewing our minds to understand perspectives and gaining wisdom. And yes i can agree that there are individuals that have sex for the wrong reasons, but its such a personal thing in my opinion it is not fair to say that if people have sex before marriage that they dont carry any reverence to sex as compared to a christian couple that is married. Just because they are married doesn't mean its better. Kids in high school are always are goin to have sex which can be wrong or right depending on the level of respect between the two individuals, and yes i can agree a child of 12 years old having sex is heart breaking to hear now in modern society. But lets contrast for a second. The minimum requirement by jewish tradition to be married is 13 for males and 12 for females. At this age they were considered adults back in the bible days because no one lived that long (examples: war, famine, disease, starvation), and if you were a male of 18 years of age it would be considered very late to not be married yet or have children. As compared to today when it is more universal for everyone to agree that having children too young can be immature and foolish. So the way we humans operate is the same as it was 2 thousand years ago in the bible days. Its natural for humans to desire sex, and back then partaking in sex was more about bearing children. Today in modern society Christians and non-christians use protection to prevent having children. If its either the pill or using a condom the consequences are reduced by a long shot as to compared to back in the bible days when there really wasn't away to go around having sex with out the risk of having children. Yes I know one of the purposes of having sex is to have children but lets all be honest, any one that has had sex know that there just more to sex than just that. But back in the day it was more about bearing children's since they didn't really have a choice in the matter. Many kings in the bible that were godly had concubines including David and Abraham, to pass down the blood line which ultimately led to Jesus being born. David perished because he had sex with a women that had a covenantal marriage to another man. If it was based off sex David would have faced the wrath of God with his concubines because it was the days before the blood of christ was spilt to cover our sins, and the days when God never always gave grace. God still used these people even when they made those decisions. So i broke it down to this. The way we view modern society today is completely different than the society that was in the bible. But we should know the full purpose of those rules with logic, conviction, and understanding.
I honor those who save themselves for marriage. Its a great stance but I view people that had sex before marriage just as good. And yes if you have sex with a immature perspective, no protection, without reverence for sex or the other individuals respect its inevitable to fail, and thats universal inside and outside the bible.
I hope I presented myself in a respectful way that doesn't come off as lustful as some people just say. Or that I am twisting the bible, or that im finding excuses to get laid, and I really feel I am not. Nor am i disproving the way you live your lifestyle. Your happiness and your pursuit for that should be between you, your fiance/wife and God.
Again I applaud and thank you for sharing your perspective. Not many people can back up with what they say or believe many of the times. And I hope people can see what angle I am coming from and to answer respectfully to my conclusion instead of closing the door and just say that I am living in sin, with out backing it up with biblical examples or logic. I been to ministry school and graduated, I am not a left wing atheist that is just finding the flaws of the bible. I believe in the values of the bible but there some things that should questioned for people to think rather than just dismissing. And we should compare and contrast what is relevant to our time in a smarter more literate society that exercise democracy instead of theocracy with rules with people that aren't as literate nor have had freedoms to speak out their concerns as this one. I ask this same question to a person with their doctrine in theology and has high respect because he taught in Azusa University for many many years and he could not give me an answer to what I have concluded here. And if I am wrong I humbly ask to be corrected.
God Bless and Have A Wonderful Day
